August 29, 2011

I'm pretty sick of the village...

They say it takes a village to raise a child, and I agree.  However there are times, especially as a new parent that you just want to wing it and figure it out on your own.  I'm pretty sick of my village, especially the women.

Maybe I'm just crabby because I'm at the tail-end of a nasty head cold and the forest fire smoke is killing me slowly.  But this week Liam had his two month shots (yes we vaccinate on the normal schedule).  I took a half day to take care of Liam not knowing how he would react.  In true Liam form he was just fine, he fussed afterward but for the most part was almost immediately back to his normal self.  V called to check on us after the appointment (before he was off work), since Liam was ok he wanted to go to dinner.  I was torn, already exhausted I wanted to go home but we hadn't had a date in weeks.  V's parents (who had already had Liam all day) wanted to spend more time with him, ultimately I gave in.  I'm glad I did, we had a great time, we ate at a chain restaurant in the mall and wondered the mall after for a little bit just being silly and enjoying the time together, after two short hours we were on our way back to our baby.  When we got to G'ma & G'pa's house I could hear Liam crying, it was his "I'm hungry and grumpy cry" go figure G'ma and G'pa hadn't given him his naps all day. UGH!

I scooped Liam up and went up stairs to feed him....two minutes later as my boob lay out in comes G'ma....ugh.  Fine whatever.  Two more minutes pass and G'ma's mom comes in....WHAT!!!  I really should have said something, I mean can't I get a little privacy!??!  My boob is out, my tank pulled up exposing a belly I'm not fond of (to say the least) and I'm trying to feed a baby that is cranky because of you people!  I'm so sick of people wanting to hang out while I breastfeed!  Ok not people but V's family.  Yes this is my fault for not speaking up but you can bet next time I'm locking that darn door! 

I know it takes a village and I'm so thankful to have them but sometimes a Momma just needs to do her own thing.  I need a break from the village, unfortunately I don't see that in the immediate future.


  1. Be strong! You can shoo the village away! Good idea about locking the door. That family of yours doesn't have a lot of boundaries...Definitely speak your mind though! :)

  2. You have every right as that baby's Mother and main protector and care giver to call the shots. And they better listen, if they want to spend time with him. Deep breath and have a chat with them. Kit